Monthly Archives: April 2010

Enter sleep mode

A timely little article in the most recent National Geographic sagely warns me that my work/sleep patterns over the last several days have had essentially the same effect on my brain that several shots of whiskey in rapid succession would have…

Not wishing to head down the dark and twisted path of drunk blogging just yet, I just wanted to let you know, gentle reader, that I’m working on sobering up–so to speak–and will return shortly.

Meantime, amuse yourself thusly. It’s an oldie, but a goody–and showcases why my little friend Tiger is one of the cutest muppets in the world.

Spring Belly

The sadly now-defunct South Austin Jug Band had a catchy little number called “My Baby In the Sunshine” on their first album (give it a listen here). It’s an upbeat homage to a special lady friend, bright and bouncy and even a little risqué, as bluegrass songs go. It’s been in and out of my head recently, by virtue of its appearance in a recent iPod shuffle session, and this morning some evil little brain imp put a goofy but spot-on twist on it: I’ve been singing “My Belly In the Springtime” to myself for a couple of hours now.

My neurons work for a dorky hippy marketing firm, apparently.

But silly fake song lyrics aside, my brain is right–lately, trips to the produce section have gone from unduly exciting to downright giddy. In the last week or so, I’ve loaded into my cart (and shortly thereafter into my piehole) bright fuschia stalks of rhubarb, fuzzy green fava beans, wrinkly morels, delicate sprigs of new arugula, and hefty bunches of greens in every color of the rainbow. I’ve had to cut myself off simply out of deference to the natural limits on the amount of food any two people can actually consume in a week’s time.

I get excited about food.

This morning I pinched back the basil growing in our yard, and the smell has me already anticipating dinner.

And so it should come as no surprise that in an already particularly memorable trip, the highlights included a meal. With no disrespect to the various local chefs we introduced our out-of-town guests to that week, our simple Earthship dinner was one of the best meals of the week.

Can you see what I mean? Favas and kale and mushrooms, oh my. All tasting like spring itself–and, like spring, utterly without need for adornment.

The recipes I’m most drawn to are the unfussy ones–short ingredient lists and simple techniques that highlight what’s already good about the food. If what’s on your plate started with healthy soil and clean water and rays of sunshine, it probably doesn’t need much done to it. If your food is good, letting it taste like itself is the most satisfying thing you can do in your kitchen.

Helping Hands

I’m halfway through Spike Lee’s documentary, When the Levees Broke, and more than anything I keep thinking I shoulda been there. It’s an unrealistic thought–the day Katrina made landfall I was just starting orientation at my first EMS job, the ink barely dry on my license. Matter of fact, I was in a media blackout phase, and I had no idea what was going on in the Gulf–I heard talk about a hurricane, but nothing’s unusual about a hurricane in August. I didn’t tune in until days later, when the scope of the problem finally trickled down into water cooler talk. But still, it’s there: I shoulda been there.

I don’t know if everyone has this reaction, but I know lots of folks do–I’ve seen it. And it’s not just ones who do emergency response or rescue for a living. In my line of work, and just in my regular day-to-day life, I’ve seen plenty of people without any training or professional duty to act spontaneously mobilize in the face of catastrophe, large or small. Some folks just seem compelled to help when it’s needed. It seems a very primal, undeniable sort of urge–when the screams or the blood or the flames appear, they run toward them, and probably couldn’t even tell you why they’re doing it. Others freeze, or run the other way, or whip out their phone and start filming for YouTube… but lots and lots of seemingly-average folks find they’ve got a big S on their chest that they didn’t even know about, when the time calls for it. It’s a piercing, urgent expression of compassion that moves me deeply every time I see it.

In Chris Rose’s book, 1 Dead In Attic, he recounts a moment that brought tears to my eyes for its fierce embodiment of this singular urge:

I remember sitting on my front stoop near the end of the first week of September [one week after Katrina] when a disheveled and seemingly disoriented guy pulled up in front of me in his pickup truck. He had Michigan plates and was pulling a boat behind him.

“Which way?” he shouted to me. “Who’s in charge here? he said.

I had to laugh at that part. No one’s in charge, I told him. But if he wanted to put that boat to good use, I said, “Keep going straight and you’ll hit the water.”

He nodded. And then he started crying. “I’m sorry I took so long, man,” he told me. “I got here as fast as I could.” And he drove off.

I saw him two days later on Canal Street, looking fresh and invigorated. He had been rescuing people and pets every since I’d seen him.

Though rude drivers and belligerent customers and newspaper headlines make it easy to forget, that little seed of fearsome compassion is inside most of us. Under normal circumstances, it may never see the light of day. But sometimes a flood or a gun shot or a stranger collapsing on the floor cracks right through the armor we throw around that seed, and sunlight pours in. That crack may close the same day, or it may not.

The point is this: the cracks happen, the light happens, the seed is there.

Trinket

Real Estate

So we did indeed do our cooking and our bike riding, but best of all, we did a little exploring. After the rest of the family hopped a plane back to greener pastures, my mom and I hit the road north, to spend the night in an Earthship. (Photos here.)

I suppose this could just be a diverting trip to an unusual hotel. I could leave it at that… but you know me. Being possessed of an almost pathological compulsion to think deep thoughts, and being snarled in the long process of crafting my own future, this trip was bound to become part of the larger, ongoing a-musing that occupies so much of my frontal lobe these days.

Let me see if I can distill this down, fish the gold bits outta the pan…

Economics, the way we currently play that game, seems more and more to me simply another word for bondage. Entered into willingly (albeit ignorantly), and with gilded, velvet-lined bonds, maybe, but bondage nonetheless. The genius of the game, though, is that marketeers have married in our minds those chains with notions like freedom and independence–it’s your stuff that sets you free. And so we gleefully pull the chains a little tighter, and believe the slogans.

A little voice somewhere inside me started crying Hogwash a long time ago, and she’s only been getting louder.

I’ve dutifully played my part as money filter–passing dollars from employer to debtor for years on end, skimming off the leftover gunk for myself–but I think it’s time to slip outta this system altogether. Or better yet, to Rube Goldberg me another contraption, one that has a beating human heart at the center, instead of hunks of cheap plastic and glitter.

What I’ve been simmering on that hot plate in the back of my mind looks like an implosion or inversion of the American Dream–the house, the property isn’t the end of the means; it becomes part of the spinning gears of the means themselves. The end is my life itself, lived on its own terms. An Earthship, or something like it, fits right in to that plan, in so many ways: the garbage-heap building materials, the DIY subversiveness, the self-sustaining infrastructure, the basic realness of it all… even just the organic shape of the space when you’re inside it–all these things jive with a worldview that’s less and less about baubles and more about bliss.

It’s hard to talk about integrating compassion and integrity into your life in these pervasive, fundamental ways without sounding, well, a bit yoga-retreat-y. Like all that patchouli finally got to the ole brain cells.

But it’s about more than woowoo and Namaste-ing each other all day long. I’m talking about survival, both in a Love-Your-Mother-bumpersticker sort of way and in a my-soul-will-become-a-sawdust-raisin-if-I-don’t-get-out-of-the-rat-race kind of way. Both are critical, and urgent.

Raj Patel’s wonderful little book, The Value of Nothing, summed up what I’m trying to get at very well, in a brief discussion of Buddhist economics:

The real value of something is not in its ability to satisfy a craving, a desire, a vanity, but to meet the need for well-being.

It all stems from that simple truth. All of it–how I want to structure the rest of my life, how I will value my time and my labor, what role stuff plays in my life. An Earthship, or something like it, isn’t a magic elixir or a patent cure-all. But it is a tool, a means, a process, a question and an answer, about what and who and how we value.

Two Places

Being
as I am so
attuned to place, so
easy to fall in love,
it is inevitable
the high desert
will
break my heart

even as the home of
my childhood
heals it.

I don’t know if I can
capture this
pin down precisely
the power
that swells inside me when
I set out under this sky or that.

It is in the quality of the light
settling over chamisa
A palette of
earth tones that somehow includes
everything from roy
through g and to biv.
Sun itself infused into a quiet,
wide-open expanse of air,
tea without water.

On these days
even the grit
feels right.

But it is also in a
glowing green,
humid breath of
a thousand thousand leaves
exhaling as one
staining the light
emerald and jade,
blood’s complimentary colors.

Two landscapes
two maps on which I
have laid down
my tracks.

Each is soft in its own way
hard in its own way
loud still vast intimate
in its own way.

Each has
cradled
crucibled
comforted me.

How to choose
one
or the other?

The heart
defies mathematics:
the more pieces
I leave
in the more places
the larger
it
(and I)
grows.

Stay tuned

Pickin’s are slim around here at the moment because I’m on vacation time. More specifically, I’m on family time. Some of the folks most dear to me in the world are in my little corner of the high desert right now, and I’ve been part-hostess, part-bad influence, part-tell-me-everything-pumper-of-information.

What I have not been is blogger, not even partly.

But stay tuned, dear reader, because there will be much to report–remembrances and their philosophical renderings, accountings of the thousand ways light will play on the New Mexico landscape, and interesting things that may be done with discarded tires.

We’ll resume our regularly scheduled programming once all that settles.

Kitchen stories

I don’t come from a picture-taking family. My father took the camera out of the household when he left, and the delineation is pretty clear in the family photos: there is ample documentation of my earliest years, BC–before camera–but from kindergarten on, it’s only annual school and dance portraits, and the occasional candid from a field trip or a special event. Things pick up again a bit after high school, but having not grown up with a camera pointed by me or at me, I tend to forget that I even have one–much less remember to use it.

My mom is coming to visit soon, and her only requests so far have been to go for a bike ride (yes, please) and to cook together (yes, please!). This morning, I sipped my coffee over an untidy sheaf of recipes–handwritten on magazine insert cards, napkins, coasters, and scraps of paper; typed on binder-ready pages; clipped from magazines, newspapers, and food packages. I have to admit that the nerd in me couldn’t resist organizing just a little. Alphabetizing seemed the simplest, and the quickest. But things soon got complicated, and I kept changing my mind mid-stream. “Acorn Squash Lasagne” rightly leads off the A’s, but then somewhere near the middle there’s an entire “Jimmy” section–Jimmy’s Shortbread Waffles* should be under W or S, and would be if I were organizing this for anyone but me. But thanks to the good words of a writer I’ve never met about her friend who I’ve also never met, the waffles stay under J.

If I weren’t pressed for time, I could have carried that trend out: lentil soup and chocolate mousse would have been filed together, for the house where I first made each. Feijoada and docinos de abobora for a warm day in September, when I was new in town and didn’t really know anyone. Cold carrot-ginger soup and chicken and onion curry for the way they keep coming up in conversation with the same person. Posole and ceviche for the way I got my first taste of each while living here. The autobiographical recipe collection–very Rob Gordon.

Poring over all the scraps of paper ended up feeling more like I imagine it feels for other people to flip through the family photo album–so many of the dishes I love belong to very specific times and places and people in my life. Standing over my very old and very cranky range with dogs underfoot, Boris McCutcheon on the stereo, and my mom at my side will be yet another snapshot to include. The problem now is deciding what to make…

*Sadly, I can’t eat these any more. But they’re so flippin’ good I couldn’t bring myself to get rid of the recipe. You should give it a whirl.

Blessed with work

The April issue of National Geographic Magazine is devoted entirely to water–how we’re using it, how we’re conserving it, how much of it is left, how fast it is disappearing. Like any hard look at climate change, global socioeconomic disparity, or material goods, it’s heavy stuff. But I’ve respected NGM for a long time for it’s ability to probe deeply without becoming too cerebral or sterile; at the heart of every piece remains the vibrancy of human experience. It’s one of the few magazines that I’ll pick up and read every page, regardless of content: even if I don’t expect to be interested in the subject, I always am.

In the water issue, there’s an article about a nonprofit based in my old stomping grounds (well, for about five minutes) of Knoxville, Tennessee. Conservation Fisheries, Inc has taken on the daunting task of preserving the myriad threatened and endangered freshwater species whose habitat is being altered and shrunk and erased from the planet altogether at an alarming rate. CFI are the canary keepers in the coal mine.

What struck me most reading this piece wasn’t the David-and-Goliath drama of success and failure in species preservation–though that’s reason enough to read–it was something very simple, and more personal. Pat Rakes, one of CFI’s founders, said this about his work: “I feel very lucky to be doing something I care about so much.”

Let me repeat the context of that statement, and you’ll see what I mean. The man spends his days facing head-on the horrifying damage we humans have wrought with our sprawl and our material greed and our need to power our teevees 24/7. He is a professional body counter. He and folks like him are the moral conscience that some others of us seem to have had excised, like an unsightly mole or a painful tooth. There are successes, yes, but more often Rakes and his colleagues are bearing witness to loses that will likely never be recovered.

And he is grateful. Grateful to be doing something he cares about, even if there is no end, or no good outcome, to that work.

I had to let that sink in for a moment when I read it. Faced with the Sisyphean task before him, he doesn’t respond with exasperation or anger or sadness (not in this moment, at least); he gives thanks for having a meaningful task to do.

And isn’t that at the heart of some of what I’ve been trying to work out? Meaning, I’m coming to find, is tied less to statistics of wins or losses than it is to what sort of effect your work has on your soul, and what sort of relationship it enables you to cultivate with the world and the life around you. Can you end every day giving thanks for what you did, or attempted to do, with your labor?

The words coming out of my mouth

One of the more dubious perks of middle management is the professional development seminar. Last week I spent my days off in Crucial Confrontations, a two-day-long exercise in learning essentially how to effectively communicate under trying circumstances. I spent most of the time (between the inevitable role-playing sessions and get-to-know-you exercises) thinking about how so much of the information seemed to be pure, uncomplicated common sense–and then thinking about how that still might not mean it’s easy or innate or simple.

Evolving these big ol’ noggins of ours and then our very own language(s) has brought with it a whole mess of baggage. Communicating seems at once so effortless, so intuitive, that we take it for granted that the message we think we’re sending is the same one that the hearer receives. Just because we can speak to each other doesn’t mean we’ll be good at it.

On the one hand, it’s a little absurd that we have to take a class to remind us to be polite and dispassionate and calm when confronting a problem with another person, particularly in a professional capacity. On the other, we are creatures whose survival rested for a very long time on quick, emotional responses, long before reason and deliberate logic were the name of the game. The power of speech is invaluable for communicating where the good roots and berries are, how far away the saber-toothed tiger is, and how exactly to master the finer points of flint knapping. It’s an imperfect tool for navigating the murky borders where egos collide. Maybe our predecessors were better at he said / she said, or maybe we’ve been using speech both to educate and to alienate for eons. Maybe we have too much time on our hands, what with not having to hunt or gather much of anything these days, or maybe we don’t get along so well because we don’t have to–when survival is a communal concern, it behooves us all to communicate like civilized human beings.

But for crying out loud, we shouldn’t need a class to know that it’s not okay to yell or insult or demean the person we’re trying to maintain a relationship with, work or otherwise.

Shouldn’t we?

I tend to think about communication skills and failures in one of two ways: there’s a skill/talent issue, which concerns one’s ability to use proper grammar and craft a pretty sentence. Then there’s the behavior issue–one’s ability to communicate with others without being a dick. It seems pretty simple to me. To be sure, when you get into the Crucial Confrontations territory, there’s also a higher level of intuition or emotional intelligence at work guiding the course of the conversation–and that can and should be taught to those who don’t innately have that ability. But for pete’s sake, the foundation should be present in and obvious to all of us, right? It comes down to two simple guiding principles:

Say what you mean.
Don’t be an asshole about it.

Is that hard?